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Get Up, Get Dressed, and Get Moving

Posted by [email protected] on July 17, 2017 at 8:35 AM Comments comments (0)



Yes, it's Monday morning and time to get off to work. The weekend went by in a blur. The bed is feeling way too comfortable and all you want to do is sleep in one more hour. You dread the thought of going to a job you now hate.

 

However, is it not just the comfort of your bed that you are not wanting to get out of? Your mind, body, and spirit just aren't up to getting geared up for your career progress. Have you become too comfortable in settling for the everyday routine that is not yielding you positive results? Do you feel stuck in your current situation? Have you become accustomed to disappointments throughout your career? Yet, are you expecting more? Are you looking for a shift in your career because it's going nowhere? Or are you still stuck in the bed?

 

Here are three ways to your next best opportunity and how to be motivated along the way.

 

Get Up (Early)-

 

The early bird certainly does catch the worm. Meditate early in the day on what positive outcomes you expect in your day. Write those expectations down. Create structure, order, and timeliness in your day and you will find that you are less stressed, more in tune with your needs and others will see the calmness in your spirit. You may also have many more opportunities open up to you that you otherwise would have missed out on because your mind is focused on the positive. You got up early to view the news and discovered there is an upcoming job fair. You researched job boards and found several positions you qualify for. You have time to respond in a timely manner. You registered and will attend a seminar or conference to add to your professional development. You arrived early to those events to network and make good use of time. Professionals are mindful of those who show up early, on-time, and prepared.

 

Get Dressed-

 

Yes, the uniform of the day sets your tone for the day. So, why not find that best outfit to transmit those positive vibes others will see from you. Don't forget to accessorize for a pop of your unique flair. It's always good to separate yourself from the pack. Yes, it's good to be a standout and memorable person who is confident yet humble. You never know whom you might see, meet, or reconnect with that will remember how you took the time to present yourself well. First impressions are lasting. Don't forget to smile. People gravitate to happy people. Smiling is an invitation to meaningful conversations. Conversations can lead to you talking about what you can do well for others. That one conversation can lead to checking off one your expectations for the day or in your career. Getting dressed in the right mindset can lead you to your best opportunity.

 

Get Moving-

 

Nothing positive comes without meaningful actions. So, move in the direction you want to go by taking the risk to simply move. If you want it, you have to go find it, claim it, and get it. Whatever, that it is. Yes, it is out there for you. Don't allow yourself to get stuck in that comfortable bed. Don't wait until Monday morning to figure out you need to take some action. Get moving on your expectations now. Use tools that are readily available to you in your job search. Research. Read. Reflect. Use your network. Build a new network. Be willing to give first before you expect to receive.

 

Career success has many moving parts. You are the key to all those moving parts. So, Get Up, Get Dressed, and Get Moving. Enjoy all the best this day will bring.

Military Professionals #Project Success

Posted by [email protected] on April 11, 2017 at 10:20 AM Comments comments (0)

Over the past four years, I have had the honor to be in front of a captive audience of military professionals that are soon to transition back to the civilian life. I say "captive" because whether they want to be there or not, it is required for what we consider on the civilian side to be their (mandatory) exit interview. I tell them that this employer cares about what and how you represent their employment as you are leaving. That is not always the case when you give your two weeks’ notice for the civilian employer. So, I have the attention of this "captive" audience during this time.

 

It is important that I while I have their attention that I represent the kind of employer they are seeking to work for. So, I put on that hat of the civilian employer during the employment training.

 

Here's my opening to the attendees:

 

First, things first, I can thank you for your service to this country. I can tell you that you have done a great job keeping our country safe too. But what does that mean to you when you leave this employment and can't get another job that is equally important, rewarding and financially stable as this one that you are leaving? What do those words really mean to you when you can't pay your bills or you are looking for somewhere to live? Nothing. They become a canned script that flow off our lips as buzzwords we think are comforting to you or better yet, are just keywords. So, I'm going to address the keywords that I would like you to put into your DNA from this point forward. These words will be part of your new mission, and the first is "military professional."

 

That's right you are a "military professional" that has expert skills, defined and unique work experiences that set you apart from the person sitting right next to you. I need to know exactly what those skills are. You are a military professional who has taken on a job that is 24/7/365. So, you are certainly flexible when needed. You are the ultimate employee who thrives on challenges and how to overcome those challenges. You are driven and can be molded to fit into almost any work environment.

 

But, everything is not for everyone in the civilian life. So, you need to know exactly what you want to do; that way I can possibly help you get to what you desire. You are mission driven. You are results-driven. You are eager to train, take on other duties as assigned and you seek advancement to help this employer look attractive to other potential employees. Now that's a professional. You have to show me you can do what you do best, not just tell me you have knowledge of something. A "professional" is what the civilian employer is looking to hire. Someone that knows what the employer needs are and how you can solve them. So, you are a military professional leaving this employer that will be that best professional we will hire.

 

Who in the (ham-sandwich) wouldn't want to hire you? I'm just saying. But, understand you have value. Your value is something you are going to have to own for yourself- not the team. That value never leaves you when you leave this employment it is transitioned to the civilian workforce. Understand that there will not always be a person to say thank you or understand all the acronyms that you use here. Although, truth is we have just as many acronyms. They only mean different things. There will not always be an employer who gets your assertiveness is not cocky but actually a way of volunteering your efforts to the workforce and a way to show your expertise. There will not always be a team to have your back day end and day out. Yet, still, be called a team and expect team rewards. You are going to hit some strong workforce changes that will cause you to question your adaptability. However, I never want you to question your abilities or professional expertise. You are going to go in and coming out with results. You are going to be able to quantify your worth in numbers, dollars, percentages and stats. The same way and the same things you have done in this military employment.

 

Remember, I'm your employer of choice. How many keywords did you hear that you will need to have on your resume to catch my attention? How do you best define your expertise? You should have heard a good 15 or more. Do you understand that to speak my language you have to be able to speak in numbers, dollars, percents, stats and results? Do you know what we do, what we provide, who our customers are? Where will you fit in? Do you know our history, mission, and values? Do you understand you are going to need to help me solve my problems? We all have them and we need the right professional to minimize those problems. Are you that professional that we seek?

 

My goal for you in this workshop is that you understand the mindset of whom you want to work for and why. You will need to understand their method of communication, their language, their wants, and needs. You will need to understand how and why they do business in the way that makes them successful. You will need to know are they really military-friendly or just hire veterans. You will need to put some new boots to ground to find out what makes you attractive to that civilian employer. You will walk out of this workshop with a marketable resume in hand; ready to shop yourself around for that next employer. You will know how to customize your marketable resume to each job posting. You will have new tools for the workday to be used daily. You will be motivated, armed and ready. I will have it no other way. Then I will thank you for not only your service but, for the work you are pouring into yourself because that is what a military professional does. Now let's get to work.

 

To the employers of choice:

 

I challenge you to put your boots on the ground and be ready for these military professionals. They are not starting over. They are trading one workplace environment for their next best work environment. They are ready to hit the ground running. So, you have to be ready for them too. They are worth every part of the compensation you will fairly pay them. Get to know their language, their work environment, their expertise, and their expectations. Be more direct and forthcoming with the military professional; that is the type of workplace culture they are used to. Revise those job postings so that you are speaking the language that reflects their expertise and your needs at the same time. Consider hosting a military professional day at your workplace so that they can get a feel for your work environments. At the same time, you get to ask what type of work environment they are used to, what their workplace culture is like and why they have certain expectations from senior leaders. They are professionals leaving one employer for the next best employer and that is your employment. That is how you can thank them for their service. #militaryprofessionals #projectsuccess

 

What makes my day?

 

Another success story from a military professional who put their new tools to work and it paid off. Here is a recent military professional success story shared with my employer:

 

Below is a statement regarding Marlo Calloway:

 

I participated in GPS for retirees class approximately five months ago, and I was thoroughly impressed by Ms. Marlo Calloway. She displayed such great charisma and genuine care for us retirees. Her expertise in the field of HR resumes and interviewing is so impressive! I took notes from her class and applied them to my resumes once I started terminal leave. There is no doubt in my mind, due to her outstanding training; I received several compliments from many hiring managers and HR representatives regarding my targeted resume. I received call backs from EVERY company I sent a resume to! The manager from the company whom I accepted a job offer made a specific point to mention how he appreciated that I targeted my cover letter and resume to the position I applied to, and how impressive my resume was! Once again, there is no doubt in my mind my resumes would not have been so outstanding if it wasn't for the invaluable training Marlo Calloway gave me, and my fellow retiree shipmates. Her interview tips were outstanding as well!

 

I would really appreciate it if this also finds its way to Ms. Marlo- An OUTSTANDING professional and all around great person.

 

V/r,- Steve Shawgo, USN Retired, Recruiter, Orion International

 

#militaryprofessionals #projectsuccess

 

This article is written by Ms. Marlo Calloway, SHRM-CP/PHR- Founder of MentorMeTDHR

 

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The Choice is Yours. 9 Steps to Positive Career Progression.

Posted by [email protected] on January 13, 2017 at 9:10 AM Comments comments (0)

So, you are going through a career transition. You may feel that you have wasted too much time in a position that is yielding you no fruit. Or, maybe you feel your talents are not being recognized and you are now disengaged at work.


Many professionals have gone through career transitions where the "light bulb" finally comes on and forces you to see that you need to make a change. The blessing in this transition is that you are no longer walking or sitting in the dark. Your true sense of worth has been reactivated and now it is time for you to take action. Here are eight steps to help your career progress, keep that light lit, and moving forward:


1. Find a mentor/mentors. Yes, you heard this before and it is such a relevant and active decision to seek out a mentor that will be your guide in your career. There is nothing more rewarding than having a professional in your career who will advise, train and groom you to be your best. They want to see you succeed. But, do choose your mentor wisely. Be sure that your choice is based not just on what that mentor can do for you but, what you can do for that mentor as well. Fostering this two-way relationship is extremely important.


2. Write it down. What you seek to find will not come out of thin air. If you are not sure what you want then it will be hard to communicate that to anyone else. Write down your goals. Write down your strengths. Write down your weaknesses. Write down what you need to close the gap in your development/training. Write often. When an idea comes your way don't let it slip away from you; get it on paper right away.


3. Be honest with yourself. Yes, I said it. Honesty will be your moral compass. If you know that you messed up on a project and that may have pushed back the deadline, then be honest in your mistake- own it. Then work to correct that mistake. If you suffer from procrastination, then work on developing the skill of good time management. Force yourself to follow the opposite behavior of self-doubt.


4. Research. The best influencers in our world are professionals who understand the power of knowledge. Gaining knowledge is not just by way of academics. Knowledge is power when you make the choice to seek it out. Be inquisitive to the 10th power. Be the nosiest person out there. Professionally stalk. Seminars, conferences, TED-Talks, and podcasts are quick ways to energize you. Be sure your research is correct. You can't be lazy and not use due diligence to fact check your sources.


5. Network. Networking is not just who you know or who knows you. Networking is building meaningful relationships. A relationship takes time and work. Time must be used wisely. Work requires using skills. Skills are what you are good at doing. Networking is much more than a buzzword. Networking requires that you have meaningful actions that you will work to keep connected.


6. Join like-minded communities-(Professional Associations). “Birds of a feather, flock together”, is the old-school phrase that simply means you are as good as the company you keep. Communities are built to bring people together that have common interests. Communities are strongest when those like-minded people work together to build each other up by way of education, training, and use of talents, business, and social engagement. You learn and acquire valuable tools to take away and use for a lifetime.


7. Volunteer. Volunteering is such an under-rated tool that many people feel they just don’t have the time to commit to. Yes, volunteering is a commitment. But, what better way to show people that you are committed to helping than when you give your time freely. Does this mean you will have to volunteer full-time? No. It simply means agreeing to the time that you say someone can count on your help. You have the opportunities to showcase your talents and abilities. You will have the experience to translate on your resume. You have many people that can say you have great work ethics. Volunteering is rewarding and can lead to great opportunities.


8. Take risks. The hardest part of transitioning in your career is knowing when to take risks. Taking risk is not the most popular trait people are willing to have. Risk can be downright scary at times. However, without out some amount of risk you will not be able to see your potential worth. You will not be willing to try again, again and again. You will be stuck in the dark. You will be lost.


9. Speak positive. There is nothing worse than your own self-doubt in your abilities. Things may not be perfect where you are currently. People may not give you the credit you feel you deserve. But, when you woke this morning, I'm almost certain they were not the reason you were able to open your eyes. So, stop thinking, breathing and living the negative. Speak positively in your life daily. Start every morning with speaking out loud and encouraging yourself. End the day with what went well. The choice is ours make.

Focus Friday- What's Your True Purpose

Posted by [email protected] on January 6, 2017 at 9:30 AM Comments comments (0)

 

"Walk in your true purpose". You may have heard many times during your lifetime some version of what it means to have a true purpose. There are tons of books by well-known authors that tell us we all have a true purpose. The quote that I share with you today speaks towards your true purpose. But, what is a true purpose?

 

Let’s define the two words, true and purpose.

 

Merriam- Webster’s Dictionary:

 

True: /tro͞o/ 1a: steadfast, loyal b: honest, just c archaic: truthful

 

Purpose: 1a: something set up as an object or end to be attained: intention b: resolution, determination a subject under discussion or an action in course of execution

 

So, are you on focus for living out your true purpose? Are you steadfast, loyal, honest and just with yourself? Do you have intention, resolution, and determination or have a plan of action to execute what you want?

 

There are so many distractions for us today that make it extremely easy to lose focus or not live out our true purpose. We have emails, cell phones, tablets, IPads and the never ending types of social media that tell us we always have to be in the know immediately. How are any of those platforms allowing you to live your true purpose? Or are you distracted by other people’s true purpose?

 

I’m asking myself these questions and much more. I hope to have answers that work for me. Meanwhile, I know that no one can focus on my true purpose but for me. What is your true purpose? Walk in your true purpose with focus.

 

 

The Typical Behavorial Interview Questions

Posted by [email protected] on August 10, 2016 at 7:00 AM Comments comments (0)

Wordle: Standard Interview Questions


Are you prepared to answer these questions?

 

  • Tell me about yourself.
  • What are your strengths?
  • What are your weaknesses?
  • Why do you want this job?
  • Where would you like to be in your career five years from now?
  • What's your ideal company?
  • What attracted you to this company?
  • Why should we hire you?
  • What did you like least about your last job?
  • When were you most satisfied in your job?
  • What can you do for us that other candidates can't?
  • What were the responsibilities of your last position?
  • Why are you leaving your present job?
  • What do you know about this industry?
  • What do you know about our company?
  • Are you willing to relocate?
  • Do you have any questions for me?

 



Relax, Breathe and Let Go of the Baggage

Posted by [email protected] on August 8, 2016 at 7:00 AM Comments comments (0)



Teens, recent graduates, re-entry professionals, novices, older workers, veterans, and even disabled individuals are all competing in the current job market for employment. We have five generations in the workforce today. Job searching and job security for some can be very stressful. You find yourself seeking out, as many avenues that you feel will give you an advantage into obtaining employment. You begin to get anxious about the possibilities of ever finding that perfect employment because months or even years have passed by without any successful outcomes. What more can you do?


Relax, exhale and breathe. Let go of your bags of doubt. Relax your mind and body from the tension that you have built up due to the stress of job searching. Why do I suggest relaxing the mind and body? In order to seek and have a good focus on any goal, you have to be relaxed. Let go of all the baggage that is weighing you down and preventing you from moving forward. Free your mind of all the negativity; so that your mind is open to new experiences, ideas and knowledge. When your body is not in the defense mode from stress, you allow yourself to feel light-exhale. Light-heartedness lends to being focused. Can you truly maintain your focus if you are not relaxed but instead always stressed?


Recently, a good friend gave me this same advice and I realized after our long conversation that I had not allowed myself the opportunity to trust, relax, and motivate my mind and body, which was hindering my focus. I had been so engrossed in what I believe I needed to do to be successful that I was the culprit of my own stress and baggage.


Once you are in the relaxed mode; you are now able to breath. Breathe steady even breaths. Breathe in the good air of positive thoughts. Relaxing the torso and diaphragm leads to a relaxed body. We take for granted what breathing does for our mind and bodies. Recall how you feel when you workout. The more you breath steady even breaths, the better the workout begins to be for you. You are now able to focus and concentrate on your goal. Your mind is open to working out more often and for longer periods of time. What have you accomplished? The art of breathing! So today, let go of the baggage. Relax, exhale and breathe. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people who will keep you accountable of your goals. Your focus for finding employment will be easier to bear now that you are not weighted down. 

Going For Your Gold

Posted by [email protected] on August 5, 2016 at 7:00 AM Comments comments (0)



As we anticipate the upcoming Olympics, it occurrs to me that all these professional athletics from around the world were not dream chasers but dream catchers. Yes, I’m sure their journey in capturing their dreams was long, hard and well worth the heartaches. But, they never gave up on pursuing their dreams. 


We all have dreams of becoming the best we know we can be. Does it matter whether or not you have put your dreams on hold? Have you given up on your dream because someone else convinced you that your dream was not worth pursing? Did you give up on your dream because you did not believe that you would be successful? Whatever the reason, is that a legitimate reason for not pursing your dream? I hope that your answer is a loud “NO”.


I truly believe that there is no good reason not to pursue your dreams. Why? It is simple; if you never put forth the effort to pursue your dream, you will never know if you would have been successful or not in pursing your dream. “It is never too late to be who you were meant to be”-George Eliot. I live by this quote. This quote inspires me to keep my dreams as a front focus. There have been many challenges, roadblocks, naysayers, and haters, which have attempted to get in my way of pursuing those dreams. Yet, I have not allowed those negative elements to define my destiny. So, I challenge you to do the same. Let go of anything or anyone (including yourself) that is not contributing to the success of your dreams. Allow your dreams to come to light! Be motivated, excited, and giddy and most of all determined to make your dreams come true. Be a risk taker! Remember you are going for the gold! But, if you don’t make the gold, be willing to accept that bronze. After all, that bronze is still evidence of a dream come true. I’m so inspired by these athletics and I hope that you will be inspired as well.

The Bad Interview

Posted by [email protected] on August 3, 2016 at 7:00 AM Comments comments (0)

The Bad Interview


Scene- You feel no matter what answers you give it will never be enough; it shows all in their faces that you are not their choice. But what did you expect? It's 9:40 am. Your interview appointment was at 9:30 am. You are officially ten minutes late. Your plan was to be at the interview at least fifteen minutes prior. On top of being late you have left your portfolio on the kitchen counter. You have no note pad, extra resumes or other relevant documents. You're sweating from rushing through the building to capture back some lost minutes. You are nervous and it shows. Things are not working out for you this morning.


What can you do to get past these negative vibes that you have created for yourself? How do you overcome the bad first impression?

Recommendation #1-You should have preparation procedures in place. Keys, portfolio and any other doucments are at the door ready for pickup. A drive by the day before the interview is always wise. You can gauge what is going on in the external environment that may become a barrier to your employment. Also, leave at least one and a half hours before any interview. 

Recommendation #2-Graciously ask to reschedule the interview if possible. Allow the opportunity to project a positive first impression.

Recommendation #3-If you choose to continue with the interview; enter the interview with confidence. Do not let the interviewer see you sweat. Keep your focus and do not allow your tardiness to navigate the remainder of your interview. But, understand that being late will be factored into your interview.

There are many reasons as to why a person may be late for the interview but how you choose to react to the "bad" interview will be a reflection on you. This should be your opportunity to reflect on what factors led to the your actions. A potential employer will never accept making excuses. Remember that an interview is an opportunity to network. Networking is the opportunity to build a relationship that you can use as a resource within your career. If your first impression with a potential network connection is that you are not mindful of your time then you should expect that this is what you have presented. You must be willing to accept your mistakes. Reflect on how you should move forward and be willing to put in the necessary work to redeem yourself.

The Good Interview

Posted by [email protected] on August 1, 2016 at 7:00 AM Comments comments (0)

"The Good Interview" are the do's and don'ts and expectations in the interview process.  Have your ever experiened a good interview?


You've finally secured that interview of a lifetime. You wake up extra early to ensure you are on time and well prepared. You're sitting in the lobby waiting eagerly. While you're waiting you are thinking about how you will do in the interview. You give yourself a little motivational pep talk to ease your mind. The receptionist calls your name giving you the cue that your time has come. "I've got this"-you say to yourself with confidence as you walk into the interview room. "I've got this"....

Scene - As you enter the room, your interviewer is sitting at a big desk talking on the phone to someone who seems to be their significant other. He/she motions you to sit down but, they continue to talk on the phone for another two minutes. Once he/she has completed the call, they stand and extend their hand for a handshake and give you their first name. " Sorry for the wait. I was just finishing a call with my spouse. You know how family can get sometimes, right?" He/she has a warm and friendly smile, firm handshake and inviting tone.

#1-DON'T : Talk about your personal life in an interview. Every employer has their own interpretationof the ideal employee. You don't know at that moment what their views or values are on the family. But, the employer knows that they can't ask you personal questions that may possible discriminante against you. Having childern or marital status is off the table for discussion. 

DO: Always ask yourself or maybe even the empployer family life comes up -"Was this a requirement or qualifications for the job?"

Often times the "Good" interviewer will make you feel as though you may already have the job and therefore it does not matter how you answer the questions. The "Good" interviewer may begin the interview with what appears to be small talk that allows you the opportunity to share information that is not part of the formal interview process. Be careful. Remember, you are still in an interview and anything that you say or respond to will be part of the interview. It is recommended to build a rapport with your interviewer but, not at the expense of over-sharing or what is known as sharing too much information (TMI). You want to remain as professional as possible yet, showing a touch of sincerity.

There are many "Good" interviewers with well intentions of making you feel comfortable in the process of the interview. But, be aware that possible illegal interview questions can arise out of the comfort level that you allowed the interview to take on. It is vital that you stick to your "script" and keep the interview questions short and to the point. This in not the time to add information that is not relevant to the position that you are applying for. Never take for granted that you control what comes out of your mouth at the appropriate or inappropriate times. Yes, you want to be sincere and show your personality but, not at the cost of losing your professionalism.

So, did you get the call back for an offer of employment? If so, good for you! You did it!!! If not, did you reveal too much information that was not part of the structured interview questions? Were you too casual? Did you over share (TMI)? If you could redo the interview, what would you do differently?  

Start at the Beginning

Posted by [email protected] on August 1, 2016 at 6:50 AM Comments comments (0)


Welcome to MentorMeHRD blog.

Start-(verb): 5a: to begin a course or journey b: to range from a specified initial point  6: to begin an activity or undertaking; especially: to begin work http/www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/start One of the most complicated yet simple actions is to "start".


Why do we have such a difficult time starting what we know we need, should or want to do? Starting anything from scratch can be intimidating yet exciting. Starting a family can be fulfilling and rewarding. Starting a program that is the first for an organization can lead you to career credibility and lead to bigger opportunities. Starting your professional career can give you the boost of confidence that you deserve. So, to start anything is to begin a course or journey that we feel will lead to success. That's it! Will we be successful? That is the unknown question and ultimately the reason for our procrastination.


In the beginning we do not know if we will be successful. Our initial fears along with our own expectations can lead to procrastination and doubt. I have experienced fear and doubt of many new undertakings because I was not sure of the positive outcome. But, it is that same fear and doubt that drives me to push on and learn from the failures and successes along the way. Perhaps you did not receive the support that you initially were expecting. There will be many people that will encourage you or doubt you; but none of those people have the control over your motivation to start whatever it is that you would like to begin. You have the power and locus of control to make it happen. So, this blog is my start to sharing many interesting topics, stories and facts pertaining to career planning, career transition, human resources, training and development, employment opportunities and outlooks.

Look for me every week on Motivational Mondays, Workforce Wednesdays and Focus Fridays. This will be your morning pickup or digression from the hustle and bustle of work. I hope that you find this information informative or enlightening that it incites you to start your positive beginnings. Please feel free to contact me directly if you have questions or need help.

I'm here to help you gain professional wealth.


Ms. Marlo Thomas-Calloway, SHRM-CP                                                                                  Talent Development Coach


 


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